I usually get the sex questions because Stiffler will be a little too graphic or harsh about certain things, and I’m always happy to answer.
For people who have vaginas, yes, butt stuff is definitely a thing. In our relationship, we honestly do more “butt stuff” than “vagina stuff.” And while it usually people with prostates that get a lot of enjoyment out of anal sex, people without them can experience equal (or, depending on who ask, even more) amounts of pleasure.
In fact, anal sex can stimulate a variety of fun body pleasure-zones in non-prostate-havers: there’s a ton of nerves, not only in the rectum, but also around/in the opening of your butt-butt; especially the pudendal nerve, which everybody has and makes a lot of different sex play feel pleasurable, including anal.
There’s also some vagina-havers who feel ‘g-spot’ stimulation only or especially during anal sex. And the anus is actually connected by nerve fibers and muscles to the clitoris (which science is just now starting to discover is actually much bigger internally) and contracts the same as the vagina during orgasm, so a little bit of play goes a long way.
Basically: vaginas are actually a lot less sensitive than anal walls, with fewer nerve endings, so for some people anal sex is much more pleasurable and for others it may be too sensitive.
As for recommending anal sex: I give it a definite Maybe! If you’re relaxed about it, prepare by going slow, using water-based lubes and having lots of foreplay (or even an orgasm or two) beforehand, then you’ll probably have a lot of fun.
Start by rimming and if you enjoy that, it’s probably a safe bet that you may enjoy a little more.
For Stiffler and I, we enjoy it in entirely different ways and at different points in our sex acts, we just had to work out exactly how and what those were — which is the same for any sex act, really. Anal sex just gets an unnecessarily harsh taboo, coupled with a lack of knowledge about the fact that it’s good, clean fun for anyone.
K, simultaneously educating while shitting on your childhood, all in one fell swoop.
This is why I married her.
I didn’t. That’s Robert Frost’s poem, “The Road Less Traveled.” I only titled it differently.
Congratulations, you just read an entire Robert Frost poem and instead imagined it was about anal sex. My work here is done.
@blueghostghost said: Sometimes I wish you all had little dogs so I could throw my little dog problems at you
Obscure Trivia Time: I actually had a little dog for many years! It was a schipperke, also known as “WTF is that,” “where is its tail,” and “the poster child for small dog aggression.”
(Not my photo.)
(But that one is. And me. And him. His name was Oberon.)
I’m sorry to hear about your cat!
Since all of our cats have come from shelters, they have all been exposed to FVR (feline viral rhinotracheitis), which is caused by a herpes virus and therefore can easily be contracted and/or inflamed. So, yes, they’ve all had the sniffles now and then.
My first piece of advice is: take your cat to the vet. Even though his symptoms are mild and he hasn’t lost his appetite, you’re better off double-checking with a professional to make sure it isn’t something more severe at the root of the issue. Even the slightest sneezing fits can escalate into a full-blown respiratory infection very quickly. If they catch something early, the treatment will be easier, your cat will be less stressed, and the cost will be significantly cheaper.
Once it’s confirmed as a herpes-related flare-up, so long as there isn’t an infection present, your vet will likely give you a l-lysine supplement, usually in the form of a yummy meat-flavored paste. That particular amino acid helps to control flare-ups and clears up mild sniffles very quickly. You can also get it in powdered form and mix it into their food. Cats seem to prefer it in wet food to mask the flavor, but we don’t have any trouble sprinkling it onto our cats’ dry food either. They might complain a little, but you can just do what we do and answer, “THIS WILL HELP YOU LIVE, YOU TWIT.”
And that concludes my advice. Keep an eye on your cat and take note of any changes in his behavior, which could be an early indicator of a more serious development. Do take him to the vet ASAP! Part of being a pet owner is being responsible for them, even if that means wrangling their spitting, clawing sack-bodies into a crate once in a while.
Good luck to you and your little one!