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I’m kinda sad someone already sent you guys a cat tie.  But more dapper cats in the world the better!

Can we set up a date between Konstantin and my cat Jewl?

(Darn it she’s fixed.  I know you don’t like babies, but you gotta admit they’d make some handsome ones!)

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Oh my, she is very dapper in her collar and tie! She even has spats to match already!

(Also, I don’t think it would just be their mutual “fixin’” that would prevent adorable baby cats. Konstantin has demonstrated time and again he clearly doesn’t understand the mechanics of sex, much to Peter’s chagrin.)

Anonymous asked: Would you have any advice for someone who is biologically one sex, has identified as the opposite gender pretty much since childhood, and physically has no chance for ever passing for the opposite gender in public? Ok, if that's too confusing, I'm a 6'3", 300lb male, and on the rare occasions that I try to pass as female, I look like a reject from the RuPaul show. Would risking my already fragile self esteem be worse than continuing to hide and repress it, which I've done for 30 years?

That’s really up to you!

While I can understand worrying about your self esteem or other people’s reactions (especially the more harmful ones), I think your own happiness should be the most important thing in this decision. By your implication that you’ve been repressing this for a long time it sounds like it’s something you know would make you happier and more comfortable personally.

And more specifically to the self-esteem thing, look at this way: Everyone has very different ideals for what they consider attractive and everyone on the planet is someone’s cup of tea, but not someone elses. There are probably a lot of people out there who think I look unattractive because I’m a short person with short hair and stomp around wherever I go. Or maybe because I’m blonde. Or maybe that I have a tattoo/don’t have enough tattoos.

But if you feel attractive and comfortable, that’s all that really matters. Other people’s opinions are just that: opinions. You can’t please everyone, so you might as well please yourself.

Anonymous asked: I'm a trans woman who's (mostly) attracted to women, is it okay for me to call myself a lesbian?

So you’re a woman who likes women? I don’t see why anyone would question the label “lesbian” for you if that’s what you chose for yourself!

Anonymous asked: Amazing new comic, but I disagree that it's fine to call agendered people by any pronoun. 'It' is really ugly and dehumanizing. Just my two cents :)

It would seem that you think I was speaking for all agendered people and not the comic’s tone, which was simply explaining myself as an individual.

When I use words like “personally” I mean “personally.” I also made the clause, in the very next bubble, that my preferences aren’t true for every agendered person.

I personally wouldn’t mind being called “it” any more than I would mind being called a blonde. It doesn’t matter to me. The only reason I tend to avoid using “it” is because I find the whole thing a little confusing in midst of normal conversation. As the comic said, does that mean that’s true for every person? No. Definitely not.

People can have their own preferences and it was made clear several times throughout the comic that it’s important to ask if you’re not sure, to respect what other people choose for themselves (i.e., pronouns) and that you don’t necessarily have to agree with or understand another person to respect them.