FindChaos: The Official Blog of A. Stiffler

Professional illustrator, comic artist, graphic designer and avid birder. Stuff I draw and other nonsense.
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Find Chaos question -- how would Arthur have reacted if Mary had come to him for comfort sex instead of Gaki?
findchaos findchaos Said:

whowasntthere:

Courtesy of my spouse, Stiffler.

But I don’t think Arthur is exactly Mary’s type, luckily for us all.

Arthur has a way with ladies.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
What kind of thing do you and your spouse fight about? How do you make up after a fight? What do you do while your fighting, do you have any childish fighting habits? (I for one go on a dish washing strike and shut the doors loudly)
findchaos findchaos Said:

Honestly, not that many things! In fact, shockingly little, but our battles do seem to come from two main sources: 1. aesthetics, and 2. wording.

On topic of aesthetics, we’re usually in sync, but we still approach the same ideas from completely different angles (figuratively and literally), so we can sometimes butt heads over which is better. And when it comes to wording, well, that’s essentially the same problem. We agree on pretty much everything, but I’m blunt to a fault and K tends to put a lot of meaning in between the lines of what’s said. As you can imagine, in perfectly Odd Couple fashion, hijinks sometimes ensue.

But it’s okay, every couple fights at some point. Ours are infrequent and burn out quickly; we’ve never had a fight last for more than a couple of hours. We just don’t function that way. Making up usually involves a lot of mutual apologizing and assurances of how crazy we are for each other (again, figuratively and literally). Then making up usually turns into making out, and… Well, etc. By the end of the whole thing, we’re usually joking around and possibly showering.

As for in-fight tactics, I think everyone resorts to some pretty silly behavior in the heat of battle. K’s tactics usually revolve around wanting space and alone time, and mine are centered around over-explaining everything (no really, unfettered, I would eventually try to argue how the Sun is to blame for all of our problems, what with its stupid gravitational pull and all) and being in-your-face-whether-you-like-it-or-not. Again, Odd Couple-like hijinks obviously ensue.

All in all, the takeaway should be that all couples argue, as I’m sure you’re aware. They’re weird, sometimes cathartic moments of chaos that, in moderation and restraint, can be very healthy in the end. As long as you can leave an argument loving each other as much or more than ever before, you’re a-okay.

What did the Greek theater manager say to the new ticket collector?

Euripides.”

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Snails Friends

Eventually they all scooted off to hide amongst the rest of the window garden, but they were so friendly and curious while they were around us! <3

More of the snails!

Teeny tiny garden snails!

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FindChaos: Unkindness, Page 44

It’s been a long day.

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Be sure to click over the site to see a higher-res version of this page, Stiffler really outdid themselves on the special effects.

Damn.

Pshaw. Also, here you go, day people!

FindChaos: Unkindness, Page 44

It’s been a long day.

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Jiji - Hair?

Every night. Every day. All Jiji wants in his life is to drool in my hair.

Can confirm this. I much prefer when he admires K’s hair while sitting on her shoulders, because when we’re in bed, I get the far less cute end of the cat.

Haku Discovers Cats

Haku likes to hang out with us (especially on K’s hand, as you can see above), but every now and then, he becomes aware of the fact that we’re not alone.

gaycrime:

wow The Onion is dropping a lot of truth for a work of satire

gaycrime:

wow The Onion is dropping a lot of truth for a work of satire

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Asker Anonymous Asks:
Hey Stiffler! I know you and K met online, so I was wondering if you recommend any website/program to meet people online?? Maybe some sort of chat room (I don't even know if people still use those)? Sorry for the weird question!
findchaos findchaos Said:

No.

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That’s not to be rude or anything, it’s just that we met online back in the late ’90s, so needless to say, the internet has changed a lot since then and those sorts of chats just don’t exist anymore.

Instead, I’ll offer you advice: the best way to find someone is to not look for them. No, really.

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In an era with matchmaking sites and apps like OKCupid, Tinder, and god knows what else, it seems like people are trying to make finding their perfect mate as simple as finding the right algorithm. That’s not how K and I found each other at all. I’ll give you the dirty truth:

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We roleplayed together. A lot. Like, hundreds of hours of deep, dark nerdy stuff before we even got to know each other personally. We played lots of different characters off each other and happened to enjoy our chemistry together enough to eventually start chatting on a personal basis. That led to hours of chatting about everything under the sun and only after years of that, we got romantic, and the rest is officially history.

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The moral to that story is that, sometimes, the right person takes a lot of time. It can help to think outside of the usual Dating Box; instead of meeting someone with the intention of a relationship and sussing out all of the detailed personal stuff and interests after the fact, try the whole thing backwards. Go to communities, chatrooms, and group activities that suit your interests, develop a rapport between those people, and make bonds. You could be surprised.*

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*(I mean, hell, at the time we met, I swore I would never date anyone in my life, and I was lying about my age and sex online. Neither K or I expected to fall for each other at first, but that’s what happens when you don’t try. A parting piece of trivia for your thoughts.)

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Making Spooky Gifs Kind Of Friday Night…

whowasntthere:

Making Spooky Gifs Kind Of Friday Night…