I couldn’t have said it better myself. Please, news people, don’t cheapen a nice thing by sensationalizing and misrepresenting it.
Anonymous asked: About your last comic; If your so concerned with how people treat you when your holding hands with your lesbian girlfriend maybe you shouldn't hold hands in public? It just seems like your asking for the attention.
I’ve been getting a lot of repeat questions lately from the latest ChaosLife comic, so I’m going to try to stagger out a few of the most popular over the course of today. Luckily (or unluckily) for you, I’m starting with yours!
This sentiment irks me to no end. Personally, I equate it with asking a rape victim why they dressed so provocatively or someone who got mugged why they were carrying their wallet. These are things people should be allowed to do and not get blamed for when they become victims of violence or hate. In my neighborhood, probably around 80% of the couples of all combinations walking around hold hands, even the little old couples that have been married since the dawn of time. Why should I be forced to behave differently because I’m in a same-sex relationship?
This strikes at the very core of the gay rights/equality argument. It’s putting the blame of our treatment at the hands of others squarely on us. If we stop holding hands to not get hated on, why end it there? Why not stop being lesbian altogether to make our lives easier? Because that’s not how it works, and we shouldn’t be blamed for the intolerant or ill-informed actions of others. We behave like a normal hetero-couple, can’t we demand to be treated like them, too?
I love holding my wife’s hand. I don’t do it for attention, I do it to feel closer to her— I would do this whether she was male or female. That’s added to the fact that I hold her hand because my wife has anxiety issues associated with her disorder, and it gives her enormous comfort and is a way for us to communicate with each other without speaking. She doesn’t have to tell me she’s uncomfortable, she can just squeeze my hand a little and we leave without incident. Should I give up all of that because some random people we pass by take personal issue with briefly glancing at our clasped hands?
I’m sorry. I just refuse to do that.